Question: My husband and I separated recently. We haven’t hired attorneys yet and until we do, we are kind of making things up as we go along. The holidays are approaching and I am wondering what the standard is for dividing time with the kids. Should we flip a coin? Have one of us take Thanksgiving and the other take Christmas? Or should we split each holiday in two?
Answer: The short answer is yes to any or all of the above, or any other arrangement on which you can agree. Without a court order in place delineating who gets what holiday, the two of you are truly left to your own devices.